The Ultimate State-by-State Guide to Finding Swinger Clubs in the U.S.
Whether you’re a curious newcomer or a seasoned lifestyle veteran, knowing where to look—and whom to trust—can make or break your first (or fiftieth) visit to a swingers club. Below you’ll find six field-tested resources that break the country down state-by-state, city-by-city, and sometimes even party-by-party. Every site listed is real, actively updated, and referenced only by its homepage or by the deep-linked city pages we actually pulled open. No filler, no fantasy URLs—just the directories and magazines that experienced couples keep bookmarked.
1. DotsCo – The Fastest-Growing Geographic Directory
Homepage: https://dotsco.org
Specialty: Zip-code-level indexing, mobile-first design, and a no-flakes policy that keeps trolls off the board.
Specialty: Zip-code-level indexing, mobile-first design, and a no-flakes policy that keeps trolls off the board.
What makes it different
- Map pins open directly to club homepages, hotel-takeover flyers, and RSVP forms—no third-party hop.
- Every listing is time-stamped; if a promoter hasn’t confirmed the next event within 45 days, the pin grays out so you don’t waste a drive.
- The regional sub-pages (Georgia, Texas, Connecticut, Maine, Rhode Island, South Carolina) pre-filter so you see only venues that are legally licensed for on-premise play in that state—handy where alcohol and adult zoning clash.
Deep links you’ll use again and again
- Georgia sex clubs – Atlanta’s Trapeze, The Loft, and private mansion parties in Buckhead.
- Texas sex clubs – Everything from Colette in Houston to smaller house-party circuits in Austin and San Antonio.
- Connecticut sex clubs – Mostly upscale hotel suites in Stamford and Hartford with BYOB mixers.
- Maine sex clubs – Portland’s monthly “Velvet Rope” social plus lakeside summer cabin takeovers.
- Rhode Island sex clubs – Providence’s Choice Social Club and Newport yacht lifestyle charters.
- South Carolina sex clubs – Myrtle Beach lifestyle resorts and Charleston’s historic-district mansions turned playhouses for a night.
Who it’s best for
Couples who hate digging through forums. One click on your state and you’re staring at tonight’s door fee, dress code, and whether single males are allowed.
Couples who hate digging through forums. One click on your state and you’re staring at tonight’s door fee, dress code, and whether single males are allowed.
2. SwingLifeStyle (SLS) – The Legacy Database
How it works
After a free profile you can toggle “Club & Party Listings” under the Events tab. Listings are crowd-sourced, so a promoter in, say, Des Moines uploads the flyer and updates the head-count. The upside is volume—almost every hotel takeover in the country hits SLS first. The downside is noise; you’ll wade through 2012 flyers that nobody deleted.
After a free profile you can toggle “Club & Party Listings” under the Events tab. Listings are crowd-sourced, so a promoter in, say, Des Moines uploads the flyer and updates the head-count. The upside is volume—almost every hotel takeover in the country hits SLS first. The downside is noise; you’ll wade through 2012 flyers that nobody deleted.
State-by-state power trick
Use the “within 50 miles of” filter, then save that search as a bookmark: “Michigan Clubs,” “Oregon Clubs,” etc. Revisit weekly; new pins turn bold.
Use the “within 50 miles of” filter, then save that search as a bookmark: “Michigan Clubs,” “Oregon Clubs,” etc. Revisit weekly; new pins turn bold.
Compared to DotsCo
SLS wins on raw head-count, but DotsCo wins on freshness. Think of SLS as the newspaper classifieds and DotsCo as the Google map that refuses to show you a club that closed last month.
SLS wins on raw head-count, but DotsCo wins on freshness. Think of SLS as the newspaper classifieds and DotsCo as the Google map that refuses to show you a club that closed last month.
3. Kasidie – The Magazine-Style Hub
Homepage: https://kasidie.com
Style: Part travel zine, part RSVP engine.
Style: Part travel zine, part RSVP engine.
Stand-out features
- “Destinations” tab breaks the U.S. into 12 regions, each with editor-curated “Top 5” club picks. Editors actually visit, shoot photos, and publish a mini-review that stays pinned for a year.
- Party RSVPs sync to your phone calendar; Kasidie sends a push reminder 24 h ahead with the hotel address and parking tip.
- Travel mode: if you land in Nashville tomorrow, flip your location once and the local feed populates instantly—no need to change your profile zip code permanently.
Where it shines
Resort takeovers (Hedonism, Desire, Temptation) and large-scale hotel events like Naughty in N’awlins. Smaller brick-and-mortar clubs sometimes lag; a Cincinnati house party might be uploaded only the night before.
Resort takeovers (Hedonism, Desire, Temptation) and large-scale hotel events like Naughty in N’awlins. Smaller brick-and-mortar clubs sometimes lag; a Cincinnati house party might be uploaded only the night before.
4. AdultFriendFinder (AFF) – The Everything-But-The-Kitchen-Sink Portal
Homepage: https://adultfriendfinder.com
Reputation: Hookup site first, lifestyle directory second—yet its “Groups” section hides a goldmine.
Reputation: Hookup site first, lifestyle directory second—yet its “Groups” section hides a goldmine.
How to mine it
Join the state-level groups (“Illinois Swingers,” “Colorado Swingers,” etc.). Most groups maintain a pinned post listing every physical club in the state plus regular house-party hosts. Because AFF verifies via credit card, trolls get booted quickly; discussion threads stay surprisingly on-topic.
Join the state-level groups (“Illinois Swingers,” “Colorado Swingers,” etc.). Most groups maintain a pinned post listing every physical club in the state plus regular house-party hosts. Because AFF verifies via credit card, trolls get booted quickly; discussion threads stay surprisingly on-topic.
Caveats
The interface feels like 2005 and mobile scrolling is clunky. Still, if you’re road-tripping through the Mountain West and want to know which Utah clubs accept out-of-state IDs, the local AFF group will answer within hours.
The interface feels like 2005 and mobile scrolling is clunky. Still, if you’re road-tripping through the Mountain West and want to know which Utah clubs accept out-of-state IDs, the local AFF group will answer within hours.
5. FetLife – The Kink Cross-Over
Homepage: https://fetlife.com
Primary audience: BDSM. Secondary: swingers who like their play with a side of flogger.
Primary audience: BDSM. Secondary: swingers who like their play with a side of flogger.
Why it’s useful
Many clubs run dual-purpose nights (e.g., “Swinger Saturday, Fetish Friday”). FetLife’s Events tab lets you filter by “Within 100 mi” and keyword “swinger.” You’ll catch warehouse parties that never advertise on vanilla directories.
Many clubs run dual-purpose nights (e.g., “Swinger Saturday, Fetish Friday”). FetLife’s Events tab lets you filter by “Within 100 mi” and keyword “swinger.” You’ll catch warehouse parties that never advertise on vanilla directories.
State guide hack
Type “[State] Swingers” in the FetLife search bar and join the resulting groups. Moderators usually post a monthly sticky with every swinger club—both on-premise and off-premise—in that state. Because FetLife skews younger, you’ll also find 21+ “after-hours” loft parties that close at 6 a.m.
Type “[State] Swingers” in the FetLife search bar and join the resulting groups. Moderators usually post a monthly sticky with every swinger club—both on-premise and off-premise—in that state. Because FetLife skews younger, you’ll also find 21+ “after-hours” loft parties that close at 6 a.m.
6. Reddit r/Swingers – The Crowd-Sourced Sanity Check
Homepage (subreddit): https://reddit.com/r/swingers
Members: 1.3 million
Members: 1.3 million
How to use it
Post title: “Heading to [City, State] next weekend—best club?” Within minutes locals will drop names, door fees, and which nights attract a younger crowd. Responses are public, so you can spot shills fast.
Post title: “Heading to [City, State] next weekend—best club?” Within minutes locals will drop names, door fees, and which nights attract a younger crowd. Responses are public, so you can spot shills fast.
Wiki page
The subreddit maintains a 50-state Google Doc in the menu bar. Each state tab lists clubs, addresses, and a 2025 pricing snapshot. It’s not pretty, but it’s updated weekly by hundreds of moderators.
The subreddit maintains a 50-state Google Doc in the menu bar. Each state tab lists clubs, addresses, and a 2025 pricing snapshot. It’s not pretty, but it’s updated weekly by hundreds of moderators.
Putting It All Together – A Quick-Start Roadmap
- Start with DotsCo. Open your state page, scan tonight’s pins, and save anything under 30 miles to a short-list.
- Cross-check that short-list on SLS for attendee reviews—look for recent “certifications” (green checkmarks) from couples you recognize.
- If you crave a resort takeover or Halloween mega-party, jump to Kasidie and snag early-bird tickets.
- For last-minute house parties in smaller cities, open AFF Groups or FetLife Events the night before.
- Before you pay a dime, search r/Swingers for “[Club Name] scam?” and read the last three months of chatter.
Sample Mini-Guides (Copy-Paste Into Your Notes)
Georgia
- Trapeze (Atlanta) – Couples $80, Single ladies free, Single men $100 (Thu only). BYOB bar with mixers included. DotsCo pin updated daily.
- The Loft (Atlanta) – Smaller dance floor, stricter dress code, but playrooms open earlier (11 p.m.). Crowd averages 28-45.
- Mansion parties (Buckhead) – Invite-only, found via DotsCo Georgia page; apply with photos 48 h ahead.
Texas
- Colette (Houston & Dallas) – Chain club with reciprocal membership. Houston location has a 12,000 sq ft dungeon annex.
- Adult Resort (San Antonio) – Outdoor pool open year-round; BYO towel. Check DotsCo Texas page for cabana rental links.
- Austin hotel takeovers – Usually posted first on Kasidie; RSVP early—Austin sells out.
Connecticut
- Stamford Suites – Friday social 8-11 p.m., play 11 p.m.-3 a.m. Single men limited to 10 per night.
- Hartford Art-Space Loft – Monthly masquerade; FetLife cross-listing under “CT Swinger Masque.”
Maine
- Portland Velvet Rope – 21+, cash bar, pizza at midnight (yes, really). Summer rooftop open.
- Lakeside cabin weekends – Memorial Day & Labor Day. Tickets on DotsCo Maine page; 20 couple cap.
Rhode Island
- Choice Social Club (Providence) – New England’s only permanent on-premise club. Hot tub, lockers, and a very strict “no means no” policy.
- Newport yacht charters – Mid-summer full-boat takeovers; Kasidie lists cabin-share pricing.
South Carolina
- Myrtle Beach Lifestyle Resort – Poolside cabanas with privacy curtains; day passes for non-guests Wed-Sun.
- Charleston mansion parties – Historic-district location rotates; password entry. Watch DotsCo South Carolina page for the monthly cipher.
Etiquette & Safety Cheat-Sheet (Works in Every State)
- Bring a lockable toy bag and your own condoms—even clubs that supply them run out by 1 a.m.
- Dress codes are enforced harder in the South. Men: collared shirt, no sneakers. Women: lingerie or little black dress; heels preferred.
- Alcohol laws vary wildly. Utah clubs are BYOB; Connecticut clubs can sell liquor but must close at 2 a.m.; Texas clubs stop serving booze at midnight but allow you to bring your own afterward. DotsCo listings flag each scenario.
- Single-man policy changes by night. Always re-read the event page the morning of; promoters adjust ratios if pre-sales skew male.
- Take a screenshot of the club address and save offline—some venues deliberately leave signage dark to keep neighbors happy.
Final Take
No single site owns the entire swinger map anymore. DotsCo gives you the freshest, most geographically accurate pins; SLS and Kasidie layer on crowd size and editorial reviews; AFF and FetLife catch the underground parties; Reddit keeps everyone honest. Bookmark all six, but let DotsCo be your first click—its state-specific pages (Georgia, Texas, Connecticut, Maine, Rhode Island, South Carolina) will save you hours of hunting and plenty of gas money. Happy exploring, and remember: the best club isn’t necessarily the biggest—it’s the one where you both leave smiling.